You can find inner peace at any time. This means not only less stress, but above all much more quality of life. Not to mention the joy of life – otherwise you might not believe me because it sounds too good? I would like to invite you: Let’s do an experiment together. I’ll make you a few suggestions and if you feel like it, why don’t you try it out right now?

What is it about when you are on a mission to find inner peace?

Do you know for yourself where you are at when it comes to inner peace? Do you have an inner compass for it? I have to admit – when I’m stressed out myself, I look for peace in the wrong way. That is, when I blame others for the fact that it has just been lost. Therefore my first point is

1. Inner peace is only about you – never about other people.

When I’m completely peaceful, content and happy, I’m clear. When I am stressed, I like to blame someone else for a situation. That may be a little too harsh – I blame someone else for a situation. If I’m honest, that used to be my permanent mode – that’s why I was unhappy and had migraines. It felt like I was a victim all the time and I didn’t realize that I had subconsciously given my power to others.

Putting the focus on others is apparently easier. If I then come to peace again, it is clear to me: I am not a victim of circumstances and I take 100% responsibility for this situation. And already it is more peaceful inside me – and I suddenly have the situation under control again. Because if others are responsible for how I feel – then the lever for inner peace is not in my hand at all.

So and now you – how is it with you? To whom do you give the responsibility for it, if it goes well or badly with you? And are you satisfied with the way you handle it? And here we are at my second point on the mission to find inner peace.

2. I am love – no matter what my feelings are playing in me at the moment.

This sentence, “I am love,” would never have crossed my lips in the past. I would not have believed it. I would not even have imagined that it was possible to be love. I lived my life in my head, imagining feelings above all, feeling misunderstood by God and the world, having beliefs like, “I’m not lovable.” and also, “I’m to blame for everything.” That there was a lot of sadness in me, I don’t need to write that anymore, do I? Because there is still a heart that is there to love, that wants to love and a longing for it. Fortunately, that has prevailed. What a change.

Not only that I can allow feelings today. After all, every feeling has a message for me. Every feeling points me to a need. Either the feeling shows me that the need is fulfilled – or that it is not fulfilled. Of course I listen to my feelings – because that is self-love and not egoism. And I succeed better and better. Sometimes feelings also bring me a message from the past – because this feeling is still linked to an old experience. These are exactly the experiences where others can easily push certain buttons and I am triggered. That’s how I can recognize it. That’s also exactly the point where peace seems lost – that’s the point to act. How I do that, I’ll tell you later.

First, I’ll ask you: How true is for you the sentence, “I am love?” Do you notice when you only imagine feelings when they are only in your head? How well can you name your feelings and listen to your feelings? How easily can others push your buttons? How easily can others rob you of your peace? Put some focus on your feelings. How are you feeling now?

3. Find inner peace in the simplest way possible!

If you have followed me this far, then you have now arrived at yourself. And you are present with yourself, aware of yourself and your feelings, your needs. Instead of blaming your partner for not giving you enough love, you have understood that you simply give him love. And you live that, too. Instead of wishing for others to love you and see you, you first fulfill that wish for yourself. And you also see the others, you see them in their feelings and needs. You also separate yourself – because to see that does not mean to be responsible for it – that is everybody himself. Up to this point you have managed to find peace with yourself. And you have managed to be at peace with others.

For many, the inner peace already stops here. And I think that is already a high skill. It takes quite a bit for you to arrive at yourself. It takes a lot to be completely present with yourself. If you can do that, my congratulations. Now comes the icing on the cake. Here at Madhukar Enlighten Life, this is where inner peace begins. You can be a pioneer for the simplest way to be at peace. If I make it even more precise, it’s about being peace and not being at peace. But I’m not writing here to be subtle, but to tell you how I do it, to be peace, to be love.

4. What makes this way of finding inner peace different from others?

What I am talking about to find inner peace is very simple. Can you imagine that it is superfluous to let go in order to find inner peace? You don’t need to do anything to feel inner harmony. Strictly speaking, it is not even necessary to meditate for it. It was precisely through this statement that Madhukar found Sri H.W.L. Poonja – because another yogi said disparagingly about him, “Imagine, there’s some swami who says you don’t have to do anything, don’t have to do any exercises, for this inner peace.” Madhukar tells you this story in this blog post (click). Yes, you can be in silence, you can meditate. I do that regularly, too. That moment may be value. But to find that inner contentment, it’s not mandatory. In any case, you won’t find anything outside that is inside you. And when it comes to Advaita, when it comes to Oneness, you will be surprised to find that feelings and thoughts also belong to the outside.

You won’t need any more tips to show you: How do I find myself? You will no longer need to follow rules to be grateful. This gratitude will radiate naturally from you. You will come to terms with the past in a completely different way, as many others teach you in a very time-consuming way. It will save you a lot of time. This inner peace is also more than what others mean when they say they have found their inner balance. You also don’t have to figure out what makes you happy and do it over and over again. What you do has nothing to do with this inner peace I’m talking about. Now I’m going to write something else that might confront you. You don’t have to take my word for it. It is often recommended that in order to find peace of mind, it is important to forgive. Even such effective methods as forgiveness are superfluous.

All this is not superfluous because the methods are not helpful or effective – what I am writing about here is more comprehensive and includes all this. The good thing is: you don’t have to take my word for it – you can try it yourself.

5. My experience with inner peace

My experience is that all the steps so far can be covered by a single “method”. I am talking here about self-inquiry. This is the question, “Who am I?” Unfortunately, the usage is often misunderstood. After all, Madhukar says that it is not a method at all. It’s a tool that can bring you back to this moment again and again. And when I write it here, it’s just words. My experience is that it really is the simplest thing. And it doesn’t matter if I’m triggered, or I’m stuck on something, or I have a problem, or there are too many thoughts in my head, or I’m fine – but I’m not present.

When I apply self-inquiry, then immediately – or after some time – there is peace. And I must confess – without the presence, without the guidance of Madhukar I would not have been able to implement it. Because in his presence it is very easy to experience what this is all about. It is possible to understand it – but ultimately it is about being it, living it in every moment. My experience is – it’s not just peace, it’s life-changing.

Every single moment you experience is the opportunity for you to be that peace. Every single moment is for you the chance to apply what the great sages have been advising for thousands of years to the people who come to them. This small change of perspective can change your whole life. In any case, it will bring you inner peace.

Do you know this simplest way to find inner peace?

What can you do to experience this inner peace?

To answer the question of what you can do, I would like to let Madhukar himself speak. He was interviewed by Suri and I am sure if you see him and hear his voice, you will experience this peace. In the interview he goes into what inner peace means for the individual. But he also goes into world peace. If you like, you can watch the interview directly on YouTube.

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If I’ve made you curious now – come to Madhukar Meditation Monday. Or check out the next opportunity for you to join a retreat.

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Who writes here?

Hi, I’m Shivani

Blogger and podcaster at Madhukar Enlighten Life. I’ve known Madhukar since 2004 and am doing what I can to help this important message of happiness reach a whole lot of people.